"He earns compliance of her mind,
He demands control her body."
This is my creed. It is based upon one from elsewhere. I hope some may find something new or affirming here. --KingJames
Above all, He cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift of her submission is the deepest, truest form of love. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but He knows that the sharing of the pleasure that comes from that precious gift is what makes him worthy to receive it.
He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that He may control his submissive. As a strong and demanding Dominant He can cause his sub to cry real tears. As a tender lover, He will kiss those tears away. He is strong enough to be vulnerable to her.
To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, He knows he must first earn her trust. He will show his submissive his humor, kindness, warmth, and power, showing her that He is a Dominant she can learn from, and his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her respect. He knows she needs to feel his strength and his romantic love. He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for his lady's honor. When she needs it He will be unrelenting and obdurate.
He teaches his submissive her lessons of trust and obedience constantly. He is a strong and unyielding teacher and taskmaster. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. He will ask much of her, and give her much in the process. Never does He use discipline or punishment without a good reason. When He does, it is always with knowledge and careful consideration. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him.
He is a careful guide, safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edge of her envelope, then beyond. He gently coaxes and ruthlessly demands from her the inner courage to reach new heights and to grow.
He is always open to communication and discussion, desiring to hear her wants and needs. For through knowing her needs and desires he becomes worthy to compel her actions. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they stretch those limits, and grow together.
He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance and admit errors. Open minded enough to learn constantly and eagerly. His tools are mind, spirit, soul, and body, with a little help from rope, crop, flogger and blindfold. He earns compliance of her mind, He demands control
He does not desire ritual behaviour from her. He knows respect is earned, not demanded. He wishes her actions to be gifts of love and He desires that she responds to him out of the need to please Him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He compels, rather than controls.
He is old-fashioned enough to be a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect and admire his submissive, her strength, her courage, her depth of devotion.
He cherishes, protects, defends, and possesses her. Quick to point out the difference between them, he knows that there is no inferiority in her submission, she is a treasure and worthy of his devotion. Her desires and responses give purpose to his efforts. He is in awe of her.
He understands that each partner gains from pleasuring the other, each in their unique way serving the other. He knows that love based on mutual respect is the only binding that truly holds.... for submission can never be taken or demanded it can only be given. He strives always to be worthy.
He lives for her gift.
© 1999 KingJames
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