Ms. Rika is a lifestyle domme. For the past 15 years, she has been experimenting with various forms of D/s relationships. Over the past two years, she has begun to write down her views of lifestyle D/s from a realistic, no-nonsense, highly experienced point of view. Although her preference and writing style is Female Dominant / Male Submissive, most of the concepts are applicable to all combinations of partners.
Rika's views on the D/s lifestyle offer a refreshing alternative to the "Tie 'em up, Rack 'em and Whack 'em" approach often used when discussing scene-based BDSM. She favors realistic approaches which enable 24 hour, 7 day each week true submission.
"True submission is not about what the domme does TO the sub. It's about what the sub does FOR the domme."
Adding D/s to a Relationship
"The more you apply yourself and learn to submit, the more dominant your partner will become."
Attributes of a D/s Relationship
"The purpose of this article is to promote thinking about these attributes, identifying their two primary sources and exploring ways to put them into the proper perspective ..."
Passion, Humility, & Gratitude
"Maintain your commitment to these principles and dedicate yourself to learning how to achieve 100% service. You'll both be happier."
Starting (or Jump Starting) your D/s Relationship
"There are three basic steps to creating or recreating successful D/s relationships..."
We Are No Different...
"EVERY relationship benefits from good, open communications... Being in a D/s relationship is no excuse to suddenly focus on communications..."
D/s is Not a Romance Novel
The facts are simple: Lifestyle D/s people are just people!
The Power of Irony
"She understands that when a submissive is forced to confront the truth of the paradox, and rationalize his reaction to it, he feels more deeply involved in his role in the power exchange."
Male Chastity Devices
"No matter how much self-discipline the sub has mastered, the physical reality of a device will shock his system. "
A Birthday in the Life of a Slave
"Once a year, every year, a slave deserves a special day. My husband's 41st birthday is coming up later this month, and I feel like treating him special for that day."
Regression vs Submission
"However, in my opinion, attempting to find lost childhood may well be a reasonable thing to do ... but it's not submission."
Submissive Utility Quotient
"A list by which submissives may judge (or be judged)
as to how useful they are to their Mistress. Provides many good ideas on how a slave/sub can be useful in a service-oriented relationship."
Rewards vs Treats
"The message a domme sends when she gives rewards is that, one reason for being a good sub is to gain the reward."
"Treats can also be quick, simple gifts which are easy to give and leave a lasting impression."
Ms Rika is more than happy to discuss these topic with you in greater detail via email: email@example.com
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