Bright Ideas

Stepping Back
When a submissive is at her most vulnerable,
this is when she needs to be strongest

There are times in a submissive's life, in a person's life when they simply need to step back, take stock of where they are, and rest, before they can move forward.

There are times, like now, when life's ups and downs begin to cloud judgment. The need to be loved, to be wanted, pushes a submissive into places she shouldn’t be, doesn't really want to be. Yet, she finds herself there amongst those who may not have her best interest at heart. Through her own overwhelming need, she doesn't heed the feeling in her gut. Nor does she notice the selfishness of their requests.

When a submissive is at her most vulnerable, this is when she needs to be strongest. This is when she needs to step back and take a hard look at herself. Is she submitting out of choice, or out of need for belonging? Is her submission a strong healthy act of submission, or a weaker act of needing to be wanted, by someone....anyone?

This is the time when friends are of major importance. I'm talking of the kind of friends that will protect you from yourself. When you find yourself driving faster forward, knowing you need to step back, find a friend. Another submissive, a dominant friend you trust and ask questions. More importantly...LISTEN to them. LISTEN to yourself as you speak to them and the answers will grow clear.

If you have no friends, then step up to the mirror and become your *own* best friend. Look at that wonderful creature in the mirror before you and ask her....Where is your submission coming from? Is it coming from an intelligent strong choice to submit? or is it coming from a desire to belong, to feel anyone, no matter the cost?

If you find you are submitting from the wrong place, feeling pushed to make a commitment, ask for time. Any Dom worth having will grant you time to come to the right decision for you. Do you really want a Dominant that doesn't have the patience to wait for you to submit from the place of strength? Do you want a Dominant who is so selfish, has such little self-control, he isn't concerned with your need?

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